Infidelity Coaching

Introduction: Get recovery from an affair/infidelity... you are not alone! About 60 percent of men and 40 percent of women will have an affair at some point in their marriage. "Monogamy Myth", Therapist Peggy Vaugn. Affairs affect one of every 2.7 couples, according to counselor Janis Abrahms Spring, author of "After the Affair," as reported by the Washington Post on March 30, 1999. Ten percent of extramarital affairs last one day, 10 percent last more than one day but less than a month, 50 percent last more than a month but less than a year, but 40 percent last two or more years. Few extramarital affairs last more than four years. So you see, many families and relationships unfortunately are impacted by the experience of infidelity. One partner’s unhealthy choices and broken boundaries can mean devastation for the the hurt partner and their children, if any. Defining infidelity: Infidelity can mean many things to many people. Here, infidelity means the breaking of trust, and there are different ways of breaking the trust in a long-term relationship. There is emotional infidelity, economic infidelity, and sexual infidelity, among other types. Affairs can often involve all three of these. And, of course, you do not have to be married to experience infidelity. Many folks in long-term, exclusive relationships are not married. The pain caused by infidelity affects men, women and children, and is an equal opportunity experience. In fact, infidelity is one of the most painful experiences one can have in life. For children, as well as adults, infidelity by one or both parents can cause extreme anxiety and depression. It can also lead to difficulties in the ability to develop healthy levels of trust, a basic building block for healthy relationships. Families suffering through infidelity often do not have the kind of support they need and deserve. I hope to change that for the individuals and families I work with. Whether you are the involved partner (the partner involved in the affair) or the hurt/betrayed partner, you can find help here. For the involved partner, this can be a beginning in your recovery and healing from the crisis your choices have brought you, your partner and your family. You can gain relief from the shame and guilt and channel that energy into more effective ways of healing yourself and your loved ones: you can be a leader in the healing of your relationship and family. For the hurt partner, you can begin to heal with support, gain clarity, get relief from the onslaught of negative thoughts and emotions with someone who has walked your path, and seek help to find a different way through this confusion, fog, pain and darkness. It’s not an easy way, but it is a conscious and effective way. We develop a plan of recovery for you (and your family) that helps to turn this crisis into an opportunity for incredible growth; I promise. You can begin to feel relief right away. You can create opportunities from this crisis. I am passionate about the work I do: helping people turn the crisis of infidelity into an opportunity for incredible growth (really!). I want to personally thank you for visiting my posting, and if interested, you can check out my website (see below). I offer effective infidelity/affair recovery coaching through emails, telephone, and/or office visits. Sabrina Shane, MSW, your infidelity recovery coach.