Per our in-person conversation once I met your large kitty, we agreed it is always best to have nervous or aggressive cats already enclosed in the bathroom before the groomer arrives. Since your kitty would not even allow you to pick her up without peeing or defecating or screaming in protest, it was in her best interest to not perform anything more stressful. I hope you were able to discuss her reaction to a stranger in the house with your vet to make sure she is 100% healthy enough to be groomed safely at home. it was very nice to meet you both however, and should you need me in the future I would be happy to help you. Thank you for the feedback.