The Marriage Tutor

San Antonio, TX

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About this pro

How does your service stand out?

My service stands out because I am not a traditional counselor or therapist. I take an approach of a teacher and coach. In our sessions, we do not stay focused on the past. Certainly, I need to hear the story of how your relationship got to where it is today, but once I fully understand your story, we move into repair mode. If there has been a breach of trust, I walk you through the steps you must take in order to repair the relationship. If you are experiencing difficultly communicating, I teach you productive ways to communicate that leads to both people feeling understood. If you are arguing and can't find a way to resolve your conflicts, I will teach you a proven method that will help you work though those conflicts quickly and keep you focused on fixing the real issue without spinning into a larger problem. Most of my clients see an immediate improvement in their relationship after the first session. This is because of my unique approach to scheduling appointments. Most marriage counselors schedule and hour for your session and once that hour is over, you are expected to leave. I don't think that approach is helpful because it usually takes an hour for a couple to fully explain the issues they're experiencing. I think it would do more damage to their relationship to allow them to recall the painful emotions and then cut them off because an hour has passed. My approach is different because it is my goal to end our sessions with my clients in better shape than when we started. I schedule appointments that allow for enough time for you to tell me the past history AND enough time to work through SOLUTIONS to the problems.

What do you enjoy about the work you do?

I love to watch people's eyes light up when they truly discover something they didn't know about themselves and realize that they have the power to change what isn't working in their relationships.
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Location

San Antonio, TX 78229

Years in business

10

Times hired on Thumbtack

72

Reviews

30 Reviews
  • Bernice R. Jun 28, 2017
    Marriage and Relationship Counseling
    Verified Review Updated
    When I called her yesterday I told her that I was pretty sure I wanted a divorce. She just left our house after spending two hours with me and my husband. My husband didn't want to meet with her but I told him I was leaving if he didn't. Not only did he like her, but he wanted her to stay longer because she was helping us so much! We made another appt for next week and I feel so much better.
  • Verified Review Original
  • Thumbtack Customer Jun 23, 2017
    We just met with Wendy yesterday for the first time. Our problem was that my husband cheated and I didn't think I could ever forgive him. Neither of us knew what to do. I can't explain everything she did to help us but I'll just say that I believe we're going to make it because she showed us a plan that I think can really help us get through this.
  • Chris P. Jun 22, 2017
    Marriage and Relationship Counseling
    Verified Review
    My wife and I would not still be married it wasn't for her coaching and techniques. I am so thankful I hired her. She is an incredible coach.
  • Becky W. May 18, 2017
    Marriage and Relationship Counseling
    Verified Review
    Wendy is an amazing listener and comes equipped with tools that really get deep into the issues. She is very caring and has a God given gift Of counseling.
  • Melissa F. Apr 15, 2017
    Marriage and Relationship Counseling
    Verified Review Updated
    Beware
    I was in disstress and desperation for help with what I was going thru. And she was very pleasant to talk to, however I wished she would have stopped me from talking or at least let me know and remind me that the money clock was ticking. After our "session" was over my bill came out to be 300 plus dollars. I was not expecting that eventhough she showed me what her rate was per hour at the end of the session, which was also something I saw as 54 dollars or something like that on this website. She was super friendly, so I feel my distress and her "willingness" to listen made me lose track of time. As a professional she should have felt the obligation to remind me during the session. I would have the choice. I am very disappointed and I really didn't bring much out of the session to be hones. I am sure she figured that out. I honestly feel she took advantage of my distress and desperation. Lesson learned for me, never will I try to get a councelor again, although she is not a councelor, she is a tutor. So I don't know why she is advertised under councelors. I rather just go to my priest for help.
    Wendy S. Apr 17, 2017

    I'm very saddened to read this review. My quote through Thumbtack was clear that I charged $70 per hour and did not accept insurance. I am saddened because my clients (read the other verified reviews) usually see how much I care about their marriages and how much I want to help them. Most of my clients know that I view my work as a calling, not just a job. Melissa, if you're reading this response, I wish you would have come to me and talked to me before posting such a harsh review. I'm sorry to hear that you won't be looking for another counselor to help you walk through your struggles. I hope and pray that you can find someone to talk to and help you and that you'll seek out help from someone else. If you're looking for free services, www.StephenMinistry.org is a great resource. They won't offer advice or tutoring, but they will offer a christian, listening ear and perhaps that was what you were searching for at the time you reached out to me. My "willingness" to listen was out of true concern for you and your marriage. Anyone who knows me knows my heart; my heart is to help people heal their broken marriages. I wish you well in your search to find the right person to help you. -Wendy

  • Verified Review Original
    Too expensive!
    I was in disstress and desperation for help with what I was going thru. And she was very pleasant to talk to, however I wished she would have stopped me from talking or at least let me know and remind me that the money clock was ticking. After our "session" was over my bill came out to be 300 plus dollars. I was not expecting that eventhough she showed me what her rate was per hour at the end of the session, which was also something I saw as 54 dollars or something like that on this website. She was super friendly, so I feel my distress and her "willingness" to listen made me lose track of time. As a professional she should have felt the obligation to remind me during the session. I would have the choice. I am very disappointed and I really didn't bring much out of the session to be hones. I am sure she figured that out. I honestly feel she took advantage of my distress and desperation. Lesson learned for me, never will I try to get a councelor again, although she is not a councelor, she is a tutor. So I don't know why she is advertised under councelors. I rather just go to my priest for help.
  • Ellen T. Mar 30, 2017
    Marriage and Relationship Counseling
    Verified Review
    Revived marriage after the first session!
    My husband and I met with Wendy to strengthen our marriage and help us compromise on some polarizing issues in our marriage. My husband was VERY apprehensive towards any sort of counseling and by the end of our 2 and a half hour session (we booked a 2 hour but things were going so well, we added another half hour) we felt revived. Wendy's sessions are not focused on the problems, but focused on providing tools to help us fix our problems. Anyone who is feeling apprehensive about counseling/rehashing the past- know that Wendy's sessions are far from that. She makes a promise to her clients that her couples are always strengethed after every session and I can attest to that being the truth. I will add that communication can be tricky with Wendy because she is clearly a successful marriage coach and provides her interpersonal strengthening skills to the corporate world as well. Know that it may take an email, a text, and a follow-up text to get a response sometimes but she is worth it. My final thought on our experience so far with Wendy is the convenience of our sessions. Wendy comes to YOU which we loved. Nothing better than being in the comfort of your own home- as opposed to trying to navigate your way through traffic, park, and sit in an unfamiliar space. If you are on the fence whether marriage coaching is right for you, let me be your biggest push into taking a chance on Wendy. She will change your marriage, and your life!
    Wendy S. Apr 17, 2017

    Thank you for such a great review, Ellen! I love working with you both and seeing the progress you're making in your marriage. Keep up the good work! I'll see you soon!

  • Jamie M. Mar 4, 2017
    Marriage and Relationship Counseling
    Verified Review
    Call Wendy!!
    Wendy was awesome!! My husband and I still have a lot of work to do but Wendy has given me the power and tools that I need to strengthen my marriage. I am really looking forward to more sessions!
  • Donia K. Feb 22, 2017
    Relationship Counseling
    Verified Review
    Will recommend
    We only had one meeting with wendy. She was very professional and will recommend her
  • Jessica R. Jan 12, 2017
    Marriage and Relationship Counseling
    Verified Review
    One True Blessing
    Wendy is a Godsend! My husband and I are truly blessed to have her in our lives. She gave us immediate tools to use in our stressful situation. We both feel like we received a breath of fresh air. We are more at peace with her insight and strategies than we have been in our entire relationship. Looking forward to more wisdom, more tools, and all of the benefits that come with having a successful marriage! THANKFUL For The Marriage Tutor!!!!
  • Vanessa N. Dec 25, 2016
    Marriage and Relationship Counseling
    Verified Review
    Awesome Experience
    I can't explain the immediate relief my husband and I felt as soon as she started to begin our process. We are still in the beginning stages of our recovery, but already there is a big difference in our household. I highly recommend her counseling.
  • Terri W. Dec 14, 2016
    Marriage and Relationship Counseling
    Verified Review
    Don't Hesitate to Hire This Person
    I just spent an hour and a half with Wendy. I can't describe how much she helped me in that hour and a half. Light. I see light at the end of the tunnel in my marriage. Thank you, Wendy! Five stars to you. I cannot wait until our next appointment to see what you have in store for me!
  • Jesus E. Nov 17, 2016
    Marriage and Relationship Counseling
    Verified Review
    This woman knows what she's talking about!
    This woman knows what she's talking about! My wife and I were having serious issues with communication. It seems like all we did was argue. Wendy really helped us understand how our style of communication wasn't working, but most of all, she taught us how to work through difficult issues without fighting! She has an amazing way of communicating that helped us zero in on the problem and find a way to quickly resolve our conflicts. I will forever be grateful for all the tools that she has given us. Thank you, thank you, thank you, Wendy!!!
    Wendy S. Nov 18, 2016

    Thank you for such a great review! You and your wife made my job easy with your willingness to learn a better way to resolve your conflicts! You two are A+ students!

  • Sarah S. Nov 16, 2016
    Relationship Counseling
    Verified Review
    One Last Try
    Wendy spent 3 and half hours yesterday talking with my long term boyfriend and I about how we can make sure the other person feels loved, how to identify when they don't feel loved, and most importantly (for us right now) conflict resolution. Since her visit we have been in a better place and very optimistic that we can get back to the loving relationship that we used to have. I highly recommend her help. We were ready to call it quits and decided to give our relationship "one last try" by seeking help. I'm so glad we did and I cannot recommend her enough for any struggling couple!
    Wendy S. Nov 17, 2016

    Sarah, thank you so much for the five-star review! I really enjoyed helping you both and I'm glad you are feeling optimistic now that you have some tools that can help you resolve conflict! It was great to meet you!

  • Jason T. Nov 5, 2016
    Marriage and Relationship Counseling
    Verified Review
    No Response!
    The only reason I gave her 1 star was because there wasn't an option for 0, After several messages, and no response, we have decided to move on. Very unprofessional to no respond! Shame on her Andrew so called business! LOOK ELSEWHERE!
    Wendy S. Nov 17, 2016

    Hello Jason. I'm sorry to hear that you were unable to reach me during a difficult time for my family. I took two weeks off of work to go out of state and help my 92 year old grandmother as she watched her second son in two years die. It's my job to help people and I am sorry I did not return your call during this difficult time for me and my family.

  • Claudia A. Aug 17, 2016
    Marriage and Relationship Counseling
    Verified Review
    We scheduled an appt and she never show up, no call to apologize, we called her several times and never answer.
    Wendy S. Nov 17, 2016

    Hello Claudia, I'm considering hiring someone to answer the phone while I'm in session with clients so I won't miss important calls like yours! My sincere apologies!

  • Julie P. Aug 8, 2016
    Premarital Counseling
    Verified Review
  • Sara S. Jul 29, 2016
    Marriage and Relationship Counseling
    Verified Review
    Wendy is truly amazing. She has a knack for making both partners feel heard and has a toolbox of ways to get actual results in your marriage. She is not a traditional counselor because she stays for as long as you can handle and offers great ideas for facilitating change.
  • Gabriela W. Jul 14, 2016
    Marriage and Relationship Counseling
    Verified Review
    Wendy is amazing. She's met with us for two sessions and in that time she's helped my husband and I's marriage so much! She's got great techniques and a wonderful approach to marriage coaching. We absolutely love her and her work!
    Wendy S. Nov 17, 2016

    Thanks! I absolutely love you guys also!

  • Sherman B. Jul 1, 2016
    Marriage and Relationship Counseling
    Verified Review
    Wendy S. Nov 17, 2016

    Thank you Sherman!!

  • Colby H. Mar 25, 2016
    Marriage and Relationship Counseling
    Verified Review
    Wendy S. Nov 17, 2016

    Thanks, Colby! I really appreciate you taking the time to give your review.

  • Holly N. Mar 11, 2016
    Marriage and Relationship Counseling
    Verified Review
    Can not be reached
  • Janice R. Dec 30, 2015
    Premarital Counseling
    Verified Review
    Ms Wendy is awesome. We've both learned and enjoyed our meetings with her. She has truly been an added blessing to our lives and we are excited about of future sessions. We've decided to add a session into our monthly budget because she really is that good/anointed. :-)
    Wendy S. Nov 17, 2016

    Thanks for the stellar review, Janice! You guys are some of my favorite clients of all time! You made me laugh during every single one of our sessions. Thank you for your kind words; they mean a lot to me!

  • Richard M. Nov 24, 2015
    Marriage and Relationship Counseling
    Verified Review
  • Jason A. Nov 16, 2015
    Marriage and Relationship Counseling
    Verified Review
    Wendy has been great! As i have been going alone up to this point, i do feel that i've learned about myself and my personal weaknesses in communication, and past bad decisions iv'e made that have and are affecting my relationship. I plan on continuing this in the near future as I need the personal help.
  • Shawn D. Oct 10, 2015
    Marriage and Relationship Counseling
    Verified Review
    Wendy is awesome! She ha helped my fiancé and I learn each other better than we ever could have without her and as a result we don't argue or fight anymore
    Wendy S. Nov 17, 2016

    Thanks, Shawn! I also appreciate your recent referral!

  • David T. Aug 25, 2015
    Relationship Counseling
    Verified Review
    Not what I expected, it was so much better. Wendy was able to hear my challenges with our Marriage and she was able to give me the tools that I needed to help me zero in on the actual problem. I am so disappointed that I did not find her earlier but is was a blessing that we found her now. We have been married for over 25yrs and I have come to learn that every family has its problems. After my meeting coaching with Wendy the weight of the world fell off my shoulders. I feel so excited now and filled with hope that we will overcome this obstacle in our lives. Cannot wait until our next session! -David
    Wendy S. Nov 17, 2016

    Thank you, David! It was my pleasure! I'll never forget your words to me that day. You said, "It's like you put all the pieces of the puzzle together!" There is nothing better than understanding what is going wrong in your marriage and creating a workable plan to change it for the better!

  • Gaby S. Jul 30, 2015
    Relationship Counseling
    Verified Review
    I've only met with Wendy once, and it was incredible! She instantly made me feel comfortable and at ease. Definitely knows what she is talking about, and gave me great tools for self-improvement. I am extremely excited to continue to meet with her and discover what the future holds for me.
  • Megela C. Jul 2, 2015
    Relationship Counseling
    Verified Review
    My wife and I have been married for almost 8 years, we are looking to strengthen our marriage as well as grow personally. This may not be common but this was our very first meeting with Wendy and.......WOW! breakthroughs, tears and epiphanies! She is professional, neutral, Honest, and facilitating, I'd like to use the word non-traditional. Her time is Your time. Give her a try. We're blessed and looking forward to a longterm relationship with her. The sky is the limit! Thanks Wendy! B&M :-)
    Wendy S. Nov 17, 2016

    We've had a lot of great sessions together since this review! You know how much I love you guys! Thank you for the five-star review!!

  • Patricia R. Jun 27, 2015
    Relationship Counseling
    Verified Review
    Wendy came to our home, in San Antonio, despite driving in Friday afternoon traffic from New Braunfels. We agreed that the 1 hour session could last longer, especially on this first meeting, and she graciously let the 1st hour, then the 2nd hour, then the 3rd hour pass without even checking her phone. Wendy was very thorough, asked all the right questions and seemed to get a pretty clear picture of the situation and issues. She seems very knowledgeable and left my husband and me with some tools to begin the process of how to better handle our conflicts. Wendy was straightforward and fair to both me and my husband, and was extremely professional, very personable, and easy to talk to. Five Stars to you Wendy.
  • Jordan N. Jun 19, 2015
    Wendy has helped me in my business endeavors. I wanted to start my own clothing line, and because of her many ideas it instantly became a reality. She also helped me with financial ideas to further my business and my own personal finances. She was very outgoing and was willing to go the extra mile to help me in any way possible.

Q&A

What is your typical process for working with a new customer?
Because I am a coach and not a counselor, my sessions are run very differently than people might think. I believe that most counselors give you an hour for an appointment and by the time that hour is finished, you've only just gotten started diving into the problem. I block off at least 2-3 hours of my time so I can stay with couples as long as they need during the first session. It's been my experience that frustrations, hurt and conflicts have been building up for a long time and by the time they see me for the first time, they really need a lot of time to tell me their story. I immediately start to see ways in which I can coach them to change their relationship, but I don't think you can get a lot accomplished with only a one hour session. I will guide the new client through the process by asking questions, creating an atmosphere where we can have deep discussion while making them feel safe to share their feelings with me and move quickly into coaching them by giving them tools and techniques to improve their communications and conflict resolution skills.
What education and/or training do you have that relates to your work?
I am a certified Stephen Minister and a Leader of 20 other Stephen Ministers, I teach continuing education each month. I teach active listening skills, boundary skills, relationships skills and how to deal with people who are in a life crisis. Because I am the continuing education leader, I must continually read and learn and write the content of the course. I'm always reading and taking courses to hone my skills as a coach. I want to be clear that I am NOT a doctor, psychiatrist, therapist or a counselor. Coaching is very different and is not a substitute for counseling, therapy or mental health evaluation.
Do you have a standard pricing system for your service? If so, please share the details here.
I charge $70 per hour for coaching services. I accept credit cards, cash, or check and collect the payment after we complete each session.
Describe a recent project you are fond of. How long did it take?
I helped a couple who were seriously in debt realize the problem and we made a plan for them to get out of the debt. It saved their marriage. They were on the verge of divorce and we explored how the issues they had in their finances carried over into their marriage. They are happily working together now and their finances and marriage is so much better than before they worked with me.
What advice would you give a customer looking to hire a provider in your area of work?
If I were to hire a coach, I would want to make sure that the coach was living the type of life I want to have. For example, If I wanted someone to help me with my relationship, I would want someone who has been with their spouse for a long time. I've been with mine for over 23 years. If I wanted financial coaching, I would want someone who wasn't broke and had actually obtained financial success. I have that. If I wanted to lose weight, I would want someone that isn't overweight. I'm not. If I wanted parenting advice, I'd hire someone who has children that are productive members of the society and are grew to be good adults. I'm that person!