Reality check. Fall 2014. My marriage of 17 years with 4 children was not getting better. Despite countless attempts to be heard and separation, my husband at the time became increasingly more verbally aggressive, punishing me through financial means and threats.
My case was very unique and complicated; I have a genetic progressive condition that is, and will take my vision and hearing ultimately. I use a cane to navigate.
Terrified, and having nothing to fall back on, but a laptop I received through a State program, it was now time to file for divorce. I reached out to a few attorneys on Thumbtack, describing my situation in hopes to find someone who would try to understand my situation and willing to take on my case. Nicholas Gottwald responded and was very sympathetic to my struggles, offering his services. He walked me through each step, responding promptly to my emails in times when my living situation became hostile, resulting in Nick's help to remove my soon to be Ex from the home.
3 months after filling, we entered Bifurcated divorce pending final mediation, 6
months to finalize financials. The next few years
dragged on with more threats, false accusations, and unwillingness to mediate from my Ex.
Nick stood by my side, giving me honest facts, reality, while never giving me false hope. He fought hard in my defense against false assumptions/accusations thrown my way in court on multiple occasions. Every time we prevailed!
Fast forward to July 2017, Judicial Settlement.
I was determined to keep it from going to trial unlike my Ex. I came prepared in my defense for questions I’d be asked by the Judge as he went back and forth between rooms. “You don’t look blind. You’re very well put together”. My response, “What does blindness look like?”. Pulling out simulator glasses of my current vision, I asked him to put them on, while I described different situations. He then realized just how constricted my vision really is, and apologized by saying, “I didn’t mean to discredit your disability”.
3 hours later, the pressure was on both sides.
There is no win/win in divorce. There may be more give than take on one party than the other...I gave more away financially in alimony duration-terms, but ultimately gained more in the end. My Ex did not succeed in his attempt to cause me further financial harm. It was finally over, and I can happily say, I’m now free! Time to move on :)
I can’t thank Nick enough for his dedication! I know without a doubt, it was not easy...As I’ve told him before, I will be sure to refer any and all of my visually/hearing impaired friends in need of legal assistance, his way ;)