2 Step Divorces

Introduction: Your priorities and needs are unique. Since I have "been through" the divorce process hundreds of times, I help spouses generate ideas, options and solutions that will work for them. This problem solving often includes setting a time-table of when different things will occur - something that promotes more certainty in an uncertain time - as a family transitions from one unit into two units. I also work with unmarried parents and LGBT couples. For divorcing or unmarried parents, discussions often involve far more than the bare minimum of child support and visitation. The logistics of parenting are far more complex and many predictable issues can be addressed before they arise - the logistics of communication plans, social media concerns, travel, driving privileges, first jobs, dating and college are common issues that many parents discuss in mediation. These are topics that a court will not bring up and ones that can create needless dissension in the future. In short, as a parent of three and a former school teacher, I keep parties focused on the future and solutions in a place where they can "have a moment" but still keep moving forward to a place where they will have far more control over the outcome. I mediate at 2 Step Divorces, a firm that does divorce mediation differently in that our appointments are for three hour windows. I like this format because it gives people time to get any additional information they need before making really significant decisions about their future, their finances and their families. As such, parties have time to make good, informed decisions without pressure or in a setting that pushes until exhaustion results in a surrender. It also gives parties time to review a written draft of agreements and proposals between appointments (when more than one appointment is needed) and make comments and edits, have it reviewed by an attorney, etc. All of that to say, I like helping people customize how they will separate because every family's traditions, values and more are simply not one-size-fits all.