Introduction: There are certain needs that we are all trying to meet as individuals. We often enter a relationship because that person fills a need we have and feels really good. We fall into patterns together and it works for a while.
Over time, as we grow as individuals, our needs change and yet we are stuck in the same patterns as when we first got together and it no longer works, causing a lot of frustration and conflict and having the same arguments over and over and getting nowhere.
How do you change this? While it's a lot easier to say the other person needs to change something, the truth is, it really starts with ourselves.
First, it is important to be aware of your own patterns of thinking, behavior and communication. Some of these habits may be a product of old wounds that you are still carrying with you, creating stress in your current life.
Then, getting a clear understanding of what your needs are, right now, as an individual, and discovering how you have been trying to get those needs met, you can begin to look for more resourceful ways to meet those needs and not rely on the other person to fill them for you. This alone, relieves a lot of pressure on both people.
The most important relationship we have is the one with ourselves. When you have a better understanding of yourself, your needs, thought processes, etc. you will communicate with others more effectively. By doing this, it automatically allows space for the other person to do the same, ultimately creating better relationships.
If you are ready to finally let go of the struggle, I can support you in creating a new empowering relationship with yourself so that you can relate to others from a place of connection, clarity and authenticity in order to experience more peace, joy and greater satisfaction in your relationships and in all areas of your life.
I love helping people make the connection to see how, by changing their thoughts, which are mostly just programming that they've held on to throughout their lives, they can change their circumstances and their lives.
So many people think that if their circumstances change they would be happier. But, it is so rewarding to hear clients say how their lives are changing for the better, all because they decided to work on themselves first.
