Feel Good Relationship

Introduction: I am on a mission to make America a better place by guiding couples to eliminate destructive behaviors within their marriage and discover what love truly is. Unlike most marriage counselors who have learned about relationships through school and text books, I’ve lived it, I’ve experienced it…the ups and downs, the good and bad, the richer and poorer. My clients aren’t just people walking through the door, they are people who walk into my heart and I have a sincere passion to move them into the life they love and the relationship that they long for and deserve. In 2008 I discovered that we all have a spiritual gift. A gift that we use to define our purpose in life. My spiritual gift is Exhorter so I went back to school, earned my coaching certification and I dove deep into psychology and human behaviors, especially around relationships and children. I quit my career as an Executive Assistant to fulfill my mission to empower couples that have let careers and other things come between their marriage and to put the focus and importance back on each other and enjoy each and every day of their life to the fullest. My life experiences gives me a built-in sense of empathy for all types of relationship issues. My own personal marriage tribulations have equipped me to have no judgments against anyone or any situation because I’ve probably experienced it personally myself. I’ve probably been right where you are right now! A dream that came true for me was… Long story short, I am married to my soul-mate, passionately, deeply and unconditionally. I struggled when… When we first married it wasn’t so healthy. We worked hard, really hard to overcome our marital struggles. We succeeded on some levels, but I was exhausted physically, mentally, financially and very confused. There were lies, abuse and alcoholism. Being a successful business woman, I found myself getting fired (which I never thought I would be an employee who would ever get fired), and even found myself in financial despair. We tried to overcome our issues on our own yet they mentally out weighed all the good we had together. We made tons of mistakes and our marriage ended in divorce. Even after divorce we attempted to make things work but that landed my husband in prison and me in counseling. I had lost sight of myself. My life changed when… I asked myself how did all this happen? Why? What happened? How did all of this go wrong? I grew up in a very loving, happy, and fun home. My parents were happily married 64 years when my dad passed away. My 2 older brothers married and never divorced. Then I questioned all the wrong decisions I had made, worried that people would no longer respect me for being married multiple times, and I feared I would end up very alone…me…the “Freak For Love”!? Eventually, I figured it out! What I discovered the most, was about me. I didn’t have the skills or the right mindset that is needed to have the long-lasting, happily ever after, type of marriage. I learned how to communicate well, resolve conflict, stay true to myself and not be who someone else wanted me to be, enjoy intimacy and romance, enjoy sex and lose my inhibitions during, love everyone unconditionally, forgive, and discovered that each day truly is a gift to be enjoyed in abundance. I also learned that every tribulation I had experienced was to strengthen me, to help me learn and grow within myself. All that despair turned out to be my greatest blessings. One day it occurred to me, the day I discovered I had a spiritual gift, my mess would become my message! This was my purpose! This is why I was handed the opportunity to experience all the marriage failures that I had to experience! To help you! So, I set out to understand my emotions and to put myself and my life into power. I volunteered for a year helping women of domestic violence regain their self-worth and self-esteem, while also helping other couples experiencing the same marriage issues that I had experienced myself. Marriage By Redesign was born. Today I enjoy an amazing career helping other couples discover how to overcome their marital issues, love again and to have the marriage they so desire. After 10 years of no communication with my ex, we reconnected. You see, this man was my soul mate. He taught me so much about commitment, love making, life, and this particular marriage experience taught me to have empathy for others that I once lacked.? We began talking and caught up on the happenings that occurred in our lives during those 10 years of no contact. Living in different states, we visited each other twice and realized that the love we once had never died. We both had grown within ourselves and realized we were meant to be together. We even remarried and now own 2 businesses together.  Our story isn’t one success story but two. Two people who turned our lives around and living the happily ever after life together. Teaching struggling couples how to become happy couples who are deeply and passionately in love with each other.