Introduction: My work with conflicted couples helps them reinvigorate their marriage. To accomplish this objective, I identify the main issues creating conflict, and then spend time helping each individual partner understand their personal role within the marital anxiety they are experiencing.
I also assist partners in understanding and altering ineffective communication and behavioral patterns which are disturbing mutually pleasing conflict resolution. Toxic underlying concerns which influence spouses and couples behavior and undermine meaningful communication are also enticed to the surface and taken out during therapy.
I also promote a team approach, and rarely ever sit back and just observe. Sometimes, I'll take the part of an educator, sometimes I'm a referee. At times, I may be more similar to a coach, and sometimes, I'll be similar to a mirror which reflects back what I am seeing. In each case, my objective is to challenge couples and spouses to embrace change and accept responsibility.
Since I believe that therapy should not end when the couple has moved out of my office, couples are given regular homework to help maintain the momentum of therapy. While the well-being of a couples marriage is my main focus, as marital satisfaction enhances, spouses also report improved personal growth.