Douglas Smith Counseling

Introduction: Has your partner changed? Are they holding back affection, mistreating you, having an affair or in the process of leaving you? Have you been told, "Well, you know you can't change someone," "It takes two to make it work" or "There's nothing you can do but get a divorce or learn to accept it." I'm here to say you can change someone you love for the better, if you have the right help. I will help you with the following: - Determine the best course of action if your partner's turned cold, cheating, abusing alcohol or wants a divorce - Recover from mistreatment by changing feelings of hurt, resentment and fear into peace, confidence and hope - Replace the fighting, cold silence, selfishness and rejection with more love, sharing, fun and closeness My approach is different because so many of my clients had a partner who wouldn't come to counseling with them and was highly resistant to change. I developed a strategy for improving a relationship that didn't require their participation. I rejected the conventional wisdom that is still prevalent today, and I subscribed to by most therapists that improvement is only possible with both partners trying and instead coached my clients on how to bring about the positive changes they wanted to see in their relationship, often, within days and even without their partner's help or awareness of what was happening. For over 30 years, this plan has proven extremely powerful in inspiring changes that made both people happier and rekindled a love in their relationship that had been missing, often for years. This strategy, which is what I believe love truly is, changes for the better both the person expressing and receiving it. "Why should I try again? I've tried so many times in the past." Like so many who have been disappointed with a lack of results in relationship counseling, you may be asking yourself this question. The answer is this time, instead of counseling that is limited to simply listening to and describing your problem, relying on this powerless approach of wishing for change without taking action, you will be given a plan, clear and supportive guidance in how to implement it and help with changing any troubling feelings you have that would otherwise prevent you from doing so. Years of talk therapy are unnecessary and can even reinforce the destructive dynamic you're in. My counseling is results-driven to heal your relationship as soon as possible to relieve you and your partner of the distress and hurt you're enduring.