Pastor Tom (Zoom Only/No Insurance)
Pastor Tom (Zoom Only/No Insurance)

Pastor Tom (Zoom Only/No Insurance)

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Introduction: Hi, I’m Pastor Tom! Please note… 1) My counseling is BY ZOOM ONLY. I live in Indiana, but I work with couples in every time zone from all over the country. ZOOM works very well for counseling. 2) I’m sorry, but I DO NOT ACCEPT INSURANCE. 3) My counseling style will require consistent effort from you. You will be expected to work on the relationship in-between the ZOOM sessions with me. This will require approximately 45 minutes during the week to go through worksheets together, plus it will require reading a 5-minute daily relationship email from me. If this sounds good, please read on! If not, then it would be best for you if you would look for another therapist. Please, don't be offended :). I just want to be upfront about things. ___________________ That being said... :) Do you feel disconnected from your partner? Do you feel like roommates? Do you struggle with issues such as Communication, Conflict Resolution, Trust, Infidelity, Intimacy and Passion, Family Planning, Anger, Fear, Unforgiveness, Relationship Stress, etc.? GOOD NEWS! I have tons of experience with these areas and many more. I can help you. EXAMPLES OF SOME OF THE THINGS YOU WILL LEARN FROM ME... How to stop the 4 conflict resolution mistakes that cause divorce. How the needs for intimacy differ between men and women. The 7 Basic Needs of all human relationships. How to stop putting your partner on the defensive. How to stop the "Repeated Fight Cycle". How to effectively apply the "5 Love Languages". How to set healthy boundaries. IMPORTANT NOTES: I want to be affordable to all who are SERIOUS about receiving help. My rates are less expensive than you will find from most every other therapist with my experience. MY FEES ARE SIMPLE (with no hidden charges) $90 per sixty minute session with purchase of a 3 Session Pack for $270 $80 per sixty minute session with purchase of a 5 Session Pack for $400 $65 per sixty minute session with purchase of a 10 Session Pack for $650 NOTE: Session Packs include MUCH MORE than a weekly sixty minute session. They also include my Daily Relationship emails, Weekly Teaching Worksheets and Videos and access to my Facebook Marriage Support Group. MY METHOD: I ask that each couple... begin with 2 individual sessions with me, followed by their first couples session. The individual sessions allow me to better understand each person’s point of view and they help me to get to the root of the problems faster. For the first couples session, the couple will complete a relationship assessment which I will review and discuss with them. I will also be discussing what I learned from the individual sessions. Most couples begin to see positive results within the first 3 sessions. Deeper healing takes place as we go beyond the initial sessions. I ALWAYS HAVE TWO GOALS when I counsel couples: 1) Help to solve their most obvious relationship struggles 2) Help to build a foundation of relationship health Many therapists ONLY work on the “felt needs” of the couple - their most obvious struggles. I however, want to give the couple the tools and understanding necessary to build a healthy, lifelong relationship. Like other therapists, I can help the couple get beyond the immediate pain that they are dealing with, but I desire health in ALL areas. My focus on the couple’s struggles (PLUS their foundational health) is why over 90% of the couples that I work with report significant improvement in their relationship. MY METHOD OF COUNSELING also includes my belief that the couples who make the most improvement are the ones who are willing to work on their relationship BETWEEN sessions. With this in mind, I offer the following: MY 30-DAY RELATIONSHIP EMAIL - each morning for an entire month, you both will receive an email from me in which you will get daily, specific teachings to apply toward the health of your relationship. MY RELATIONSHIP HEALTH SYSTEM - this consists of weekly worksheets and video instruction/teachings from me (Pastor Tom) - the couple will learn and grow together from spending approximately 45 minutes in-between sessions going through these worksheets. The worksheets and videos help make our sessions EVEN MORE valuable. Worksheet topics include: Ways To Resolve Conflict, How To Communicate Better, How To Take The High Road, Ways of Showing and Receiving Love, The 3 Stages of Love... and How To Keep Your Relationship Healthy. FACEBOOK LIVE TEACHING - my clients are invited to join my Facebook group called “Restoring HOPE Marriage Support Group”. As an added bonus... each Monday evening, I do a LIVE teaching on a different relationship topic. The Facebook group and the LIVE Teachings give you an added way to work on your marriage. ADDITIONAL NOTES: I am a pastor. While I am not “preachy”, I do have a Biblical point of view. I use scripture, refer to God, etc. where applicable. I OFFER A FREE 30 MIN ZOOM CONSULT to all who are SERIOUSLY considering the possibility of working with me. MORE HELPFUL INFORMATION... I have been a pastor for 39 years and married for 43 years. I have officiated over 300 Weddings and have had the opportunity to help couples with virtually every type of marriage issue imaginable. The many years of working with couples, learning from my own marriage and tons of research and study with the Gottman Marriage Institute, have given me a wealth of information and tools to help you overcome your struggles. I believe that God is the author of love and therefore everything I teach is in accordance with scripture. Counseling success happens when: 1) The couple is open, honest and willing to change where needed 2) The couple desires to grow and learn DURING and IN-BETWEEN sessions 3) God is at work changing hearts and minds, healing wounds and re-connecting the couple. As part of my ministry, I specialize in Marriage Counseling (including in Premarital Counseling). Frequent topics include Communication, Trust, Conflict Resolution, Infidelity, Intimacy and Passion, Family Planning, etc. I am Certified with the Gottman Marriage Therapist Institute. I am also a Counselor with Connected Marriage Counseling and a Certified Counselor with Prepare/Enrich Marriage Counseling. I also am trained in helping those suffering from the effects of an affair (Post Betrayal Syndrome). PLEASE REMEMBER... I OFFER A FREE 30 MIN ZOOM CONSULT to all who are SERIOUSLY considering the possibility of working with me. I hope to hear from you soon.
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Wendy A.
2 weeks ago
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I want to share my amazing experience with Pastor Tom. He has given us tools to build a marriage of love, trust and true partnership. We committed to all of his assignments and worksheets that has helped us tremendously in bringing us back together and even getting to know things about each other that we didn’t know. I loved the 30 days emails he sent us, those activities gave our relationship the words and understanding we had been ignoring and now we have moved towards a positive perspective in almost all situations. During his sessions he actively listens meanwhile taking notes so he can really focus on the facts and help us overcome what we are going thru. I cannot Thank you enough Pastor Tom because I can see a genuine passion you have in helping couples and we are so blessed to have chosen you to guide us to a path of peace, love, patience and understanding!
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J'Niah J.
Jul 9, 2023
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Pastor Tom as our pre-marriage counselor was truly transformative. His dedication, expertise, and genuine care for our relationship exceeded our expectations. Pastor Tom's focus on preparing couples for the challenges of married life is commendable. His strength is facilitating effective communication. He created a safe space for us to voice our thoughts and concerns and gave us practical strategies that have proven invaluable. Pastor Tom's commitment to conflict resolution and conflict prevention has been remarkable. He taught us to deal with conflict early and provided problem-solving techniques that helped us set healthy boundaries. Furthermore, Pastor Tom's thoroughness in covering all kinds of human relationship situations was also impressive. He approached sensitive issues fearlessly, with grace and wisdom, and gave us the tools to take control of important aspects of our relationship. In summary, Pastor Tom's expertise, compassion, and dedication have made a huge impact. We feel well prepared for the marriage path and have effective communication and conflict resolution skills. We wholeheartedly recommend Pastor Tom to any couple seeking advice on how to prepare for the beautiful adventure of marriage.
Pastor Tom (Zoom Only/No Insurance)'s reply
Thank you J’Niah. It has been a privilege to work with you and Layomi.
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Kelli B.
May 24, 2023
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We are both doing much better thanks to Pastor Tom! At the end of the initial consultation session, my husband surprised me when he, without hesitation, asked Pastor Tom to sign us up for the 6 session package. I thanked my husband and out of curiosity asked why - his response, "I learned more about life, marriage and myself in 20 minutes with Pastor Tom than I've learned from anyone I've talked to in the past 47 years of my life!"
Pastor Tom (Zoom Only/No Insurance)'s reply
Thanks Kelli!!
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John S.
Apr 8, 2023
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Pastor Tom is truly a blessing! After 5 sessions I can see my life changing and also the restoration of my family. I like how everything he says goes right with the Word of God! I will continue my sessions to keep improving and we will use him for pre marriage counseling. Thanks again Pastor
Pastor Tom (Zoom Only/No Insurance)'s reply
Thank you John. I have really enjoyed working with you and I am so happy to see the changes in your relationship.
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Cortnae J.
Apr 2, 2023
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Pastor Tom helped my fiancé and I work out some major hot topics during our pre-marital counseling sessions. We selected the 6 session package which included (2 individual sessions and 4 couple sessions). I really appreciated the individual sessions because it allowed each of us to be as open as possible in sharing major hot topics which allowed Pastor Tom to focus on our biggest pain points during our couple sessions. We really appreciate you Pastor Tom! Thank you for everything!!
Pastor Tom (Zoom Only/No Insurance)'s reply
Thank you Cortnae! It was an absolute joy to work with you both and to see your relationship become fully healthy.
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