Introduction: Hi, I’m Pastor Tom!
Please note…
1) My counseling is BY ZOOM ONLY. I live in Indiana, but I work with couples in every time zone from all over the country. ZOOM works very well for counseling.
2) I’m sorry, but I DO NOT ACCEPT INSURANCE.
3) My counseling style will require consistent effort from you. You will be expected to work on the relationship in-between the ZOOM sessions with me. This will require approximately 45 minutes during the week to go through worksheets together, plus it will require reading a 5-minute daily relationship email from me. If this sounds good, please read on! If not, then it would be best for you if you would look for another therapist. Please, don't be offended :). I just want to be upfront about things.
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That being said... :)
Do you feel disconnected from your partner?
Do you feel like roommates?
Do you struggle with issues such as Communication, Conflict Resolution, Trust, Infidelity, Intimacy and Passion, Family Planning, Anger, Fear, Unforgiveness, Relationship Stress, etc.?
GOOD NEWS! I have tons of experience with these areas and many more.
I can help you.
EXAMPLES OF SOME OF THE THINGS YOU WILL LEARN FROM ME...
How to stop the 4 conflict resolution mistakes that cause divorce.
How the needs for intimacy differ between men and women.
The 7 Basic Needs of all human relationships.
How to stop putting your partner on the defensive.
How to stop the "Repeated Fight Cycle".
How to effectively apply the "5 Love Languages".
How to set healthy boundaries.
IMPORTANT NOTES:
I want to be affordable to all who are SERIOUS about receiving help. My rates are less expensive than you will find from most every other therapist with my experience.
MY FEES ARE SIMPLE (with no hidden charges)
$90 per sixty minute session with purchase of a 3 Session Pack for $270
$80 per sixty minute session with purchase of a 5 Session Pack for $400
$65 per sixty minute session with purchase of a 10 Session Pack for $650
NOTE: Session Packs include MUCH MORE than a weekly sixty minute session. They also include my Daily Relationship emails, Weekly Teaching Worksheets and Videos and access to my Facebook Marriage Support Group.
MY METHOD:
I ask that each couple...
begin with 2 individual sessions with me, followed by their first couples session. The individual sessions allow me to better understand each person’s point of view and they help me to get to the root of the problems faster. For the first couples session, the couple will complete a relationship assessment which I will review and discuss with them. I will also be discussing what I learned from the individual sessions.
Most couples begin to see positive results within the first 3 sessions. Deeper healing takes place as we go beyond the initial sessions.
I ALWAYS HAVE TWO GOALS when I counsel couples:
1) Help to solve their most obvious relationship struggles
2) Help to build a foundation of relationship health
Many therapists ONLY work on the “felt needs” of the couple - their most obvious struggles. I however, want to give the couple the tools and understanding necessary to build a healthy, lifelong relationship. Like other therapists, I can help the couple get beyond the immediate pain that they are dealing with, but I desire health in ALL areas. My focus on the couple’s struggles (PLUS their foundational health) is why over 90% of the couples that I work with report significant improvement in their relationship.
MY METHOD OF COUNSELING also includes my belief that the couples who make the most improvement are the ones who are willing to work on their relationship BETWEEN sessions.
With this in mind, I offer the following:
MY 30-DAY RELATIONSHIP EMAIL - each morning for an entire month, you both will receive an email from me in which you will get daily, specific teachings to apply toward the health of your relationship.
MY RELATIONSHIP HEALTH SYSTEM - this consists of weekly worksheets and video instruction/teachings from me (Pastor Tom) - the couple will learn and grow together from spending approximately 45 minutes in-between sessions going through these worksheets. The worksheets and videos help make our sessions EVEN MORE valuable. Worksheet topics include: Ways To Resolve Conflict, How To Communicate Better, How To Take The High Road, Ways of Showing and Receiving Love, The 3 Stages of Love... and How To Keep Your Relationship Healthy.
FACEBOOK LIVE TEACHING - my clients are invited to join my Facebook group called “Restoring HOPE Marriage Support Group”. As an added bonus... each Monday evening, I do a LIVE teaching on a different relationship topic. The Facebook group and the LIVE Teachings give you an added way to work on your marriage.
ADDITIONAL NOTES:
I am a pastor. While I am not “preachy”, I do have a Biblical point of view. I use scripture, refer to God, etc. where applicable.
I OFFER A FREE 30 MIN ZOOM CONSULT to all who are SERIOUSLY considering the possibility of working with me.
MORE HELPFUL INFORMATION...
I have been a pastor for 39 years and married for 43 years. I have officiated over 300 Weddings and have had the opportunity to help couples with virtually every type of marriage issue imaginable. The many years of working with couples, learning from my own marriage and tons of research and study with the Gottman Marriage Institute, have given me a wealth of information and tools to help you overcome your struggles.
I believe that God is the author of love and therefore everything I teach is in accordance with scripture. Counseling success happens when: 1) The couple is open, honest and willing to change where needed 2) The couple desires to grow and learn DURING and IN-BETWEEN sessions 3) God is at work changing hearts and minds, healing wounds and re-connecting the couple.
As part of my ministry, I specialize in Marriage Counseling (including in Premarital Counseling). Frequent topics include Communication, Trust, Conflict Resolution, Infidelity, Intimacy and Passion, Family Planning, etc. I am Certified with the Gottman Marriage Therapist Institute. I am also a Counselor with Connected Marriage Counseling and a Certified Counselor with Prepare/Enrich Marriage Counseling. I also am trained in helping those suffering from the effects of an affair (Post Betrayal Syndrome).
PLEASE REMEMBER...
I OFFER A FREE 30 MIN ZOOM CONSULT to all who are SERIOUSLY considering the possibility of working with me.
I hope to hear from you soon.
