Introduction: COST: $160 per 50 min. Session. I do not take insurance. I work nationwide on Zoom. Call for an appointment. In-person and local online sessions are also available upon request.
Are you frustrated with the way that you and your partner communicate?
If you have arguments and unsolved disputes all the time, I can help you break that exhausting cycle that leaves you both feeling unheard and sad.
INFIDELITY
If this has occurred in your relationship, I will help you get through the journey back to a place of trust and intimacy. I will guide you through the work of self-discovery, self-awareness, and re-establishing your dignity through self and other forgiveness and help you find your way to becoming wholly committed to the relationship.
BEFORE YOU CHEAT CALL ME!
If you are considering cheating or you have already started, call for a free online discussion about how to make better choices that can save your relationship. Relationship repair is our primary focus! Call now. Registrations are limited. For more details. Call the number on this profile. CALL NOW!
COMMUNICATION
This is key to resolving any relational problem. I will introduce you to communication skills you will use long after our work is done. Infidelity is often the result of communication obstacles. Being honest is essential. Being transparent is critical. I will show you how to achieve both.
RELATIONSHIP REMODELING™ brings improvement by focusing on process over content. I believe we all can create the relationship we desire. Relationship Remodeling separates the content of disagreements from the process of navigating them and allows you to see the underlying patterns that determine the success or failure of your life goals.
WHY CAN’T WE STOP FIGHTING?
Fighting is the outcome of not being able to manage your differences—an essential part of any relationship. If you both could sit down and dispassionately sort out your differences, there would be no fighting. You can’t stop fighting because once you start, heated emotions, defensiveness, and aggression kick in and releases the fight-or-flight hormones of adrenaline, cortisol, and norepinephrine. Unfortunately, this process can shut down critical thinking and analysis. Mammals (including humans) are not designed to sit still through these stormy emotional states. Ions of evolution designed us to run in the face of fear. In an intimate relationship running takes many forms. Fighting is just one.
CALMING and QUIETING INTERVENTIONS
I will provide you and your partner with interventions that slow down the pace of your communication and allow the natural positive resonance to reconnect you. I will show you the joy of arguing while keeping your dignity and mutual respect. In a close relationship, disagreements are inevitable and even helpful—fighting is not.
What is most important about this process of getting into arguments or outright fights is that there is a part of your brain that senses threat way before you know it is present. It is called the Amygdala and its job is to keep you safe. The amygdala can easily be aroused by a slight negative interpretation of something uttered by a loved one or even a glance that is seen as a critical assessment. Once it is triggered, your brain has lost its power to evaluate what's going on--your body is automatically launched quickly into an elevated emotional state. I will show you how this process affects how you communicate with your partner. Let's put you in control of yourself!
