Black Minds Matter Psychotherapy - NO INSURANCE
Black Minds Matter Psychotherapy - NO INSURANCE

Black Minds Matter Psychotherapy - NO INSURANCE

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Introduction: Are you frustrated with the way that you and your partner communicate? If you have arguments and unsolved disputes all the time, I can help you break that exhausting cycle that leaves you both feeling unheard and sad. INFIDELITY If this has occurred in your relationship, I will help you get through the journey back to a place of trust and intimacy. I will guide you through the work of self-discovery, self-awareness, and re-establishing your dignity through self and other forgiveness and help you find your way to becoming wholly committed to the relationship. COMMUNICATION This is key to resolving any relational problem. I will introduce you to communication skills that you will use long after our work is done. Infidelity is often the result of communication obstacles. Being honest is essential. Being transparent is essential. I will show you how to achieve both. Relationship Remodeling™ brings improvement through focusing on process over content. I believe we all have the capability to create the relationship we desire. Relationship Remodeling separates the content of disagreements from the process of navigating them and allows you to see the underlying patterns that determine the success or failure of your life goals. WHY CAN’T WE STOP FIGHTING? Fighting is the outcome of not being able to manage your differences—an essential part of any relationship. If you both could sit down and dispassionately sort out your differences, there would be no fighting. You can’t stop fighting because once you start, heated emotions, defensiveness, and aggression kick in and releases the fight or flight hormones of adrenaline, cortisol, and norepinephrine. Unfortunately, this process can shut down critical thinking and analysis. Mammals (including humans) are not designed to sit still though these stormy emotional states. Ions of evolution designed us to run in the face of fear. In an intimate relationship running takes many forms. Fighting is just one. CALMING and QUIETING INTERVENTIONS I will provide you and your partner with interventions that slow down the pace of your communication and allow the natural positive resonance to reconnect you. I will show you the joy of arguing while keeping your dignity and mutual respect. In a close relationship, disagreements are inevitable and even helpful—fighting is not. What is most important about this process of getting into arguments or outright fights is that there is a part of your brain that senses threat way before you know it is present. It is called the Amygdala and its job is to keep you safe. The amygdala can easily be aroused by a slight negative interpretation of something uttered by a loved one or even a glance that is seen as a critical assessment. Once it is triggered, your brain has lost its power to evaluate what's going on--your body is automatically launched quickly into an elevated emotional state. I will show you how this process affects the way you communicate with your partner. Let's put you in control of you!

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Robert A.
Oct 21, 2021

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Reuben Burke's has been nothing short of amazing for my girlfriend and I. He has been such a great help in every way possible. We appreciate him. Great man. Awesome Job .
Black Minds Matter Psychotherapy - NO INSURANCE's reply
I am very thankful that I am able to be of service. I strive to give back the help that was given to me throughout my life and the hard times that got me to where I am today. I take nothing for granted. Thank you.
Marriage and Relationship Counseling
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Brian H.
Oct 26, 2021
Ruben is a wonderful human who takes the time to really dig into the problem so it can be worked on and bettered
Black Minds Matter Psychotherapy - NO INSURANCE's reply
My humble thanks to you Brian!
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Royce M.
Oct 25, 2020
Reuben has been responsive to Isaiah and Joshua during the past through years of their life. The young men relate to him because he is both professional, but revelant to where they are in life. We love Reuben and hope the best for him and his career!
Black Minds Matter Psychotherapy - NO INSURANCE's reply
Thank you Royce for such nice review. It is a pleasure to know that I have been helpful!
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Omar C.
Oct 19, 2020
Ruben and I worked together at a time of a lot of loss in my life. I was having a hard time motivating myself to take small actions to move through my grief. Ruben never gave me the sense that I needed to do anything in particular to please him, and yet I found him to be completely present with everything I was going through, and also willing to honestly say what he was seeing. That presence and honesty was exactly the light I needed to be able to see more clearly the next steps that were before me. I would highly recommend him to anyone who is interested in finding a deeper sense of meaning and getting closer to their true purpose in life. A. Omar Cain
Black Minds Matter Psychotherapy - NO INSURANCE's reply
Thank you Omar.
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Reuben Burke


  • What should the customer know about your pricing (e.g., discounts, fees)?

    Discount pricing is available for clients in hardship situations.

  • What is your typical process for working with a new customer?

    The first session is designed to identify the problem and establish a working relationship. Then we identify the hidden causes that may be influencing not only your feelings but your behavior as well. My assessments may also include a neurophysiological approach for reducing your levels of anxiety, fear, and general discomfort.

  • What education and/or training do you have that relates to your work?

    I have training in Narrative therapy and Cognitive Behavior therapy (CBT). I have a Master's in Counseling Psychology and I am a PhD student in Transpersonal Psychology at California Institute of Integral Studies nearing my dissertation.

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