COST: $160 per 50-minute session. I WORK NATIONWIDE ON ZOOM. I am based in California. I do not take insurance. Are you frustrated with the way that you and your partner communicate? If you have unresolved disputes all the time, I can help you break that exhausting cycle that leaves you both feeling unheard and sad.
INFIDELITY
If this has happened in your relationship, I will help you navigate the journey back to a place of trust and intimacy. I will guide you through self-discovery, self-awareness, and re-establishing your dignity through forgiveness, and help you find your way to becoming wholly committed to the relationship.
If you are considering cheating or you have already started, call for a free online discussion about how to make better choices that can save your relationship. Relationship repair is our primary focus! .
COMMUNICATION
This is key to resolving any relational problem. I will introduce you to communication skills you will use long after our work is done. Infidelity is often the result of communication obstacles. Being honest is essential. Being transparent is critical. I will show you how to achieve both.
RELATIONSHIP REMODELING™ focuses on process over content. I believe we all can create the relationship we desire. Relationship Remodeling separates the content of disagreements from the process of navigating them so you to see the underlying patterns that determine the success or failure of your life goals.
WHY CAN’T WE STOP FIGHTING?
Fighting is the outcome of not being able to manage your differences—an essential part of any relationship. If you both could sit down and dispassionately sort out your differences, there would be no fighting. You can’t stop fighting because once you start, heated emotions, defensiveness, and aggression kick in, releasing the fight-or-flight hormones of adrenaline, cortisol, and norepinephrine. Unfortunately, this process can shut down critical thinking and analysis. Mammals (including humans) are not designed to sit still through these stormy emotional states. Ions of evolution have designed us to run or fight in the face of fear. In an intimate relationship, these impulses can manifest in many different forms.
CALMING and QUIETING INTERVENTIONS
I will provide you and your partner with interventions that slow down the pace of your communication for natural, positive resonance to reconnect you. I will show you the joy of arguing while keeping your dignity and mutual respect. In a close relationship, disagreements are inevitable and even helpful—fighting is not.
What is most important about this process of getting into arguments or outright fights is that there is a part of your brain that senses threat way before you know it is present. It is called the Amygdala. Its job is to keep you safe. The amygdala is quickly aroused by a slight negative interpretation of something uttered by a loved one or even a glance that is seen as a critical assessment. Once triggered, your brain loses its ability to evaluate what's happening, and your body is automatically launched quickly into an elevated emotional state. You will learn how this process affects your communication with your partner. Let's put you in control of yourself!
