University of Miami Marriage Coach

Miami, FL

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How does your service stand out?

Hi, I’ am Matthew Hoelscher, founder of Parent Marriage Coaching. I’ have found that many marriages begin to suffer communication issues after the first major marriage stressor. The most common stress is raising kids, along with work, in-laws, and other life changes. I created the Emotionally Connected Couples Coaching (EC3) in response to the three most common marital issues, stupid fights, betrayals (infidelity) and feeling like you are roommates. Babies cry when desperate to communicate their needs of love, food, sleep, comfort {aka: diaper change}. Adults pick stupid fights for attention. I always hear about the “dishes in the sink”, but the REAL problem is never the dishes. I love my work because I do not allow myself to be a referee of marriage fouls. In the first 30 minutes of the session, I listen to concerns and ask questions to decipher what each needs to feel loved? I teach each partner how to make requests in the language their partner feels most loved. Couples then will practice recreating the feeling of connection before having a 10-minute conversation. Couples also learn how to take a "timeout" when things get too heated. It is my intention to help find and practice excellent communication skills in our sessions so that you and your partner can get back to living in a happy, fulfilling, parent based marriage! Please call or text my cell phone now for a quick 15-minute phone call with me to see if EC3 coaching will be a faster and more efficient solution than traditional therapy or counseling.

What do you enjoy about the work you do?

Having a child is the number one stress that all marriages must face. What starts out as a wonderful surprise soon becomes the source of anger and conflict. All the attention that went to each partner is now all directed at the baby. Parents forget about themselves, their spouse's needs and completely focus on the baby. There is usually a huge decrease in libido for women and a huge increase in men. Small gestures of intimacy, like hugging and kissing get withheld as woman do not want to lead their men on to thinking that there might be sex later. Ignored needs result in partners protesting by withholding. Men often report feeling like the bottom of the pyramid. Women feel drained and exhausted. They love their partners, but there is a deep need to be alone to recharge and take back control of their bodies. My coaching focuses on teaching couples the secrets of emotional connection (intimacy). You both will feel reconnected and loved by your partner during the session and then we work on solutions to problems like finance, child raising, in-laws, and sexual frequency. Please call my cell phone now for a quick 15-minute phone call with me to see if EC3 coaching will be a faster and more efficient solution than traditional therapy or counseling?
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Location

Miami, FL 33186

Background check

Complete

Years in business

7

Number of employees

1

Times hired on Thumbtack

202

Reviews

54 Reviews
  • Betsy C. Apr 22, 2017
    Marriage and Relationship Counseling
    Verified Review
    After looking for a long while for the right person finding Matthew was perfect timing. He is very easy to talk to. Makes us feel comfortable and helped us both to understand each other better. We will always be grateful for finding him first! Thank you Matthew!!
  • Stephanie P. Mar 15, 2017
    Marriage and Relationship Counseling
    Verified Review
    Best Coaching Experience Ever
    I cannot say enough good things about my experience with Matthew. He always seemed more interested in fixing my marriage than getting paid. His intake phone call was amazing. He gave me hope where I thought there wasn't any. He is a straight shooter and doesn't hold anything back. I think my favorite part is he gives you this feeling of "We can do this" and an empowerment that is usually lost after the millionth argument on the same topic. His end goal is to give us the tools that we need in order to succeed in our marriage without having to go to weekly sessions to hash out all the ugly that we've done, said or thought. If you're looking to fix your marriage, strengthen your marriage or just get a new perspective on how to be a better couple Matthew is your guy!
  • Elaine F. Mar 10, 2017
    Smart Investment to Myself
    I am seeing Matt for marriage coaching after my husband suggested divorce. He is very approachable, honest, and easy to talk to. I find myself telling him more than I ever thought I would tell anyone. His office hours are flexible and at convenient times. Sessions are held in a very safe and welcoming environment. He is an investment that I am happy to make in myself.
  • Tiffany M. Jan 25, 2017
    Marriage and Relationship Counseling
    Verified Review
    Matt is incredible for young couples/newlyweds! How he helped us...
    I waited 5 months after our sessions with Matt to write this review... we are still benefiting and learning from everything he has shown us and he was exactly what we needed! We are in our late 20s early 30s in a 9-year relationship and found ourselves completely disconnected from each other, fighting constantly and ended with a separation for about a month. We were engaged and owned a home together and my Fiancé had ZERO interest in attending a session and assumed it would be awkward to talk to a stranger about our intimate life. Matt goes above and beyond to make you feel comfortable to share your story and will dedicate time to call you before a session as a warm up for those who may be skeptical at no cost! He provided an open-minded, non-judgmental atmosphere and we cannot thank him enough! He helped us reconnect emotionally after feeling it was beyond repair. Most importantly, he helped us overcome bad communication, different views/priorities and infidelity. In our first session, Matt was able to simplify what exactly was our core issue that was leading to all the fighting. As a result, the sessions gave us a chance to move forward with a much stronger foundation. Different from a psychologist, Matt's strategy/approach in helping couples is straight to the point, unbiased and it WORKS!
  • Angie M. Jan 24, 2017
    Marriage and Relationship Counseling
    Verified Review
    Marital intimacy issues
    Hello, am 22 years old and I came across this honest easy going coach with marital issues and he has helped me with steps and suggestions and listened to me with no interruptions. A brief description of my marital dilemma has been in our intimacy and although it was a bit embarrassing to open up with him he gave me Total comfort. I truly recommend.
  • Lisa K. Jan 23, 2017
    Marriage and Relationship Counseling
    Verified Review
    We were close to giving up.
    Worth the investment! Starting feeling better after the first visit. We loved each other but we were yelling almost every day. Now the spark is back in our marriage and we couldn't be happier. Thank you thank you thank you.
  • Arlene H. Jan 19, 2017
    Marriage and Relationship Counseling
    Verified Review
    Great first session!
    Great first session! Loved his techniques.
  • Dominique V. Jan 4, 2017
    Exceptional marriage coach!!
    Matthew is a blunt, straight to the point, not best around the bush kind of guy completely focused on getting straight to the root of your marital problems so that may resolve them. He's very easy to talk to and is able to throughly & effectively provide further insight to your partner on the emotions you are trying to convey. He easily understands your perspective, but can easily identify the perspective of your partner while allowing you to comprehend from the point of view of your partner! He's is a great find!! He is an exceptional marriage coach!!
  • Vanina S. Jan 2, 2017
    Marriage and Relationship Counseling
    Verified Review
    Great
    on 1st session made me feel hopeful once again...I'm looking forward next 2!!!
  • Vanessa E. Dec 31, 2016
    Relationship Counseling
    Verified Review
    He is amazing
    After one visit... my outlook on life and my relationship changed tremendously. I look forward to learning more from Matthew.
  • Daniella D. Dec 22, 2016
    Marriage and Relationship Counseling
    Verified Review
    Highly recommended!!
    Matt is great, he is funny, he understands all situations and makes you feel very comfortable. Highly recommended!
  • Paul N. Dec 21, 2016
    Relationship Counseling
    Verified Review
    Smart choice
    Easy to talk to and very accommodating with a edible days and hours . Matt is not a clock watcher either . Went past ending appointment time each visit. Only criticism I would have is sometimes his returning emails or text took days instead of hours
  • Alejandra B. Nov 10, 2016
    Family Counseling
    Verified Review
    I feel hopeful for the first time in years.
    For the first time in years I'm hopeful of a brighter future with my husband. He will talk to you straightforward without making you feel guilty or defective. He does have the insight to listen to your silence and give you tools to repair yourself and your marriage. It's totally worth the investment. I'm looking forward to a happier future.
    Matthew H. Dec 20, 2016

    Half of the magic happens in the silence. I pay attention to how each partner reacts to what the other one is saying to focus on what is truly important or misunderstood by both of you. You both made a HUGE shift for being done to being in love again!

  • Chisel L. Oct 11, 2016
    Marriage and Relationship Counseling
    Verified Review
    Marriage Counseling
    Matt is very open minded and easy to talk too. He's accommodating with the appointments and understands that life gets in the way. Can't wait for our next meeting, I left his office with a huge weight lifted off my shoulders on the first day. Haven't felt that way in a long time. Thank you Matt for being apart of our lives and helping us communicate better. Excellent coach - thank you for reaching out to me Matt!
    Matthew H. Dec 20, 2016

    My goal is to make all my clients feel like they are in "first class." Rescheduling is never a problem, and there are no ridiculous fees. You have enough problems without trying to bend around my schedule. I created my practice so that I can be flexible with my clients and accommodate whatever surprises that come up.

  • Diana C. Sep 18, 2016
    Relationship Counseling
    Verified Review
    First timer
    For my first ever therapy section, Matthew made the section warm, welcoming and gave me clarity and honesty. Cant wait to go back.
    Matthew H. Dec 20, 2016

    Thank you, for trusting me. I know it takes a while to warm up to a complete stranger. Openness and honesty are the two most important traits in the coaching relationship.

  • Martha R. Aug 11, 2016
    Relationship Counseling
    Verified Review
    Where to begin... We met Matthew when we were literally calling it quits. We decided that at best we wanted to stay friends, air out some of our issues, and move on. From the beginning Matt told us he would not sugar coat anything, which might be too much for some, but really pushed us to be honest with each other. His deep knowledge of relationships and openness regarding sexuality made us both feel very comfortable. Whether it works or doesn't work I'll continue seeing Matt to work on my own "freek".
    Matthew H. Dec 20, 2016

    We all have a "freak" we keep hidden away. Owning it and feeling confident to share it with our partner is one of the greatest challenges of any relationship. The more you "have" together, especially after marriage, the harder it is to share the parts of ourselves that seem unworthy of love and attention.

  • Dr. Kristen T. Aug 6, 2016
    Matthew is my go to resource when my clients needs a relationship coach. He is well trained and has solid experience, knowledge, and skills in helping people move through relationship obstacles. I appreciate and trust Matthew to take good care of my clients.
    Matthew H. Dec 20, 2016

    Thank you, Dr. Tolbert! You do some great work as well help people build and excel in their work. Sometimes it's the relationships at home that are taking are creative energy away from our work.

  • Monica B. Jul 17, 2016
    Marriage and Relationship Counseling
    Verified Review
    Very straightforward and honest counseling! Helped us a lot by just letting us find our own shortcomings. Definitely recommend Matthew for marriage counseling.
    Matthew H. Dec 20, 2016

    Once you can find responsibility for your actions and your part of the relationship, it is easy to forgive the past and make new commitments to co-creating the future you both want.

  • Johnny S. Jun 17, 2016
    Marriage and Relationship Counseling
    Verified Review
    Matthew is highly recommended. He listens to the key points in your relationship problems and points them out. He is not a shrink trying to revisit your past taking your money session after session. Matthew has you attend 3 easy sessions and you get the results he guarantees. He saved our relationship of 11 years and we went ahead and got married after his second session. We received the confidence we lacked and the knowledge to carry our relationship. He gets to the root of your problem and gives you great advice. He never tells you what to do, he lets you both figure it out as you go. As he says "you as a couple caused the problem, you as a couple have to correct it". Matthew is funny and intellectual. the session is never boring, and I actually looked forward to the session.He made us both feel very comfortable as we spoke. Matt's very flexible with scheduling the appointments and fully dedicates his time to you both. The cost is well worth the money with satisfaction guaranteed. Matt, there are no words to express what you have done for me and Joanne. You have made us fall in love again and showed us how to communicate along with maintaining the fire lit in our hearts. I cant thank you enough. Folks, if you are considering his help, please do! Matt, don't change a thing, continue your dedication to helping others. AAA+++
    Matthew H. Jul 7, 2016

    Please keep in touch! I am so happy for both of you! I can't wait to see pictures of the baby!

  • Vanessa A. Jun 10, 2016
    Marriage and Relationship Counseling
    Verified Review
    Great experience!
    Matthew H. Jul 7, 2016

    You both brought some unique and challenging issues to the table. I am so proud at how fast both of you learned how to recover and reconnect emotionally due to the stress of both your work and personal lives.

  • Elizabeth S. Jun 8, 2016
    Relationship Counseling
    Verified Review
    Matt really helped us communicate better. He was right on point with our personalities. He gave us techniques we can use to help save our marriage.
    Matthew H. Jul 7, 2016

    You both were a pleasure to work with!

  • Rochelle R. May 1, 2016
    Marriage and Relationship Counseling
    Verified Review
    Highly recommend Matt to anyone seeking marital guidance. Makes everyone feel at ease and really puts things into perspective. Great energy and comfort.
    Matthew H. May 1, 2016

    Rochelle thank you and your husband for being so open and vulnerable.

  • Richard R. Apr 29, 2016
    Marriage and Relationship Counseling
    Verified Review
    Matt ; has a gift to listen and direct a practical resolution to achieve a formidable outcome. With his advise in our initial 90 min session he managed to move my wife and I forward from a stalemate . Now with his advise we know how to nurture and move onto our next milestone from our 30 year marriage towards
    Matthew H. May 1, 2016

    Richard, I was my pleasure to help you both reset your relationship goals, reconnect, and find a new way forward together.

  • Eric K. Apr 5, 2016
    I found Matthew online. Read his great reviews. Called him and spoke with him......right away I knew we needed to see him ASAP . Our meeting opened my eyes to many things I was not aware of. Matthew coaches you to bring the better husband in you! I recommend couples with or without issues to visit him. He will help you and your spouse to another level.
    Matthew H. May 1, 2016

    Eric, I want to acknowledge how brave you were in asking for help at the first sign of a problem instead of waiting years like so many couples do!

  • Diana K. Apr 5, 2016
    My husband and I needed help with a few issues in our marriage, we have never been to counseling, therapy or coaching and I didn't know what to expect. Matthew made me feel so relax and with only one session I was able to get everything that I was holding back out of my system, he helped me translate to words what I was feeling and didn't know how to express to my spouse. Im very grateful to Matthew and highly recommend him.
    Matthew H. May 1, 2016

    Diana, you and your husband have such a wonderful connection. Once we "translated" your non-verbal communication, you each understood each other on a deeper level.

  • Dania A. Mar 23, 2016
    Marriage and Relationship Counseling
    Verified Review
    He is awesome this man can read me like a book and helped my husband and I understand each other better. And I'm still not quite sure how he did it but he got my husband to talk and broke things down simply for both of us to understand and keep us on the same page. He really understands both men and women. I only wish we would have done this sooner!!!
    Matthew H. May 1, 2016

    Dania, thank you for your kind words. Getting husbands to talk is one of my specialities! They have to know they will be listened too completely without interruption. Now you can both actively listen to each other.

  • Kostiya P. Mar 9, 2016
    Marriage and Relationship Counseling
    Verified Review
    My wife and I decided to see Matthew to create some dedicated space for a root cause analysis of past issues . Our goal is mostly preventive and we believe in equipping our relationship with enough tools to face the day to day demands of a professional couple with three young kids. Our first session with Matthew was exactly what we needed. He first made us feel very comfortable in sharing our desires, apprehensions and fears without interference. We then identified the potential areas most likely to create stressful situations in the couple and addressed each of them from different angles. Matthew used his coaching experience to teach us simple but powerful ways to communicate in a respectful and non judgemental way. He made us aware of little things that can lift barriers to intimacy and therefore enable better interactions. We are very grateful to Matthew and look forward to our next sessions !
    Matthew H. May 1, 2016

    Kostiya, I appreciate you taking the time to write such a detailed review! It was a pleasure to work with both of you!

  • Ashley D. Mar 3, 2016
    Marriage and Relationship Counseling
    Verified Review
    My husband and I were at a loss with each. Not divorce status but we couldn't seem to get along and after a baby and the passing of my father we were completely disconnected. Matthew helped us find each other again in just one session. Looking forward to the next two sessions! Very affordable for an amazing experience! Highly recommended!
    Matthew H. May 1, 2016

    Ashley, I am so please at such a big transformation you both made so quickly!

  • Leslie L. Mar 3, 2016
    Relationship Counseling
    Verified Review
    It's was an amazing experience. He helped us communicate what was bothering us, and gave us a different perspective on how to approach our problems.
    Matthew H. May 1, 2016

    Leslie, thank you for being so brave and trusting the process.

  • Elsa J. Mar 2, 2016
    Marriage and Relationship Counseling
    Verified Review
    Matt really knows what he's doing! His coaching techniques really worked. I highly recommend Matt for anyone who is struggling in their relationship.
    Matthew H. May 1, 2016

    Elsa, thank you so much for your trust and participation.

  • Nicki M. Feb 29, 2016
    Relationship Counseling
    Verified Review
    Talking to Matt helped my relationship out tremendously. We walked into the session upset and not on speaking terms. We left with a positive attitude and hope!!! We feel as though we have another shot at working out our differences. Matt gave us a exercises on the spot and we were able to leave the session with key things to work on. I would recommend Matt to others without any hesitation.
    Matthew H. May 1, 2016

    Nicki, when a couple is upset, I know there is still a connection between them that can be healed.

  • Karla M. Feb 23, 2016
    I was not optimistic about seeing a marriage councilor. However, from my first session with Matt I found myself wanting to come back. Matt makes you feel as though you are home and his office is a safe zone to feel say and act how ever you'd like or need to without being judged or frowned upon. I recommend him to everyone and anyone who needs help finding answers rather it be within your marriage or life as a whole.
    Matthew H. May 1, 2016

    Thank you Karla. Like the Rolling Stones said, "You can't always get what you want. But if you try sometimes, you might find,you get what you need."

  • Dana B. Feb 11, 2016
    A friend referred me to Matthew. He was able to break me out of my shell to make my marriage more successful. He took the time to get to know my husband and me and made us feel very comfortable speaking with him about very personal things over Skype. We left each session feeling relieved. He gave us an action plan to help us get back on track. Since then, we are stronger then ever. We couldn’t have done it without him. I wouldn’t hesitate to go back to him.
    Matthew H. May 1, 2016

    Dana, I am so happy you gave me shot from the other side of the country.

  • Janill M. Feb 11, 2016
    Marriage and Relationship Counseling
    Verified Review
    Matt was very easy to talk to and my husband and I both felt very comfortable. We are looking forward to our next session with Matt.
    Matthew H. May 1, 2016

    Janill, thank you for trusting me with such a delicate situation. I'm happy you both found your way thru it, together.

  • Tam V. Feb 2, 2016
    Marriage and Relationship Counseling
    Verified Review
    My husband and I went to our first session with Matthew fully loaded (emotionally and mentally). We have been depleted physically and emotionally because of issues with in laws, business and kids. We turned against each other and every argument ended with curse words and tears. Our home wasn't home anymore and only the girls gave us reasons to smile. We needed help because it was beyond us. Matthew helped us face our reality. We needed to be happy individually before we find happiness within our marriage. This is what we are working on currently before we can tackle any other issues. We both left the session with red eyes and tear stained faces but smiling. I felt so much lighter, as if the weight of the world has been lifted from my shoulders. We were both surprised at how effective the first session was. We were scheduled for two hours but were not rushed through it at all, we stayed for three hours! We are continuing our sessions with Matthew so that we can work through compromises and find resolutions concerning the in laws and the kids. I wholeheartedly recommend Matthew for anyone that is seeking help and has even just a teeny bit of hope. He's out there!!
    Matthew H. May 1, 2016

    Couples that live and work together as entrepreneurs create some very complicated relationship problems. It was a pleasure working thru all of them with both of you.

  • Chris W. Feb 1, 2016
    Marriage and Relationship Counseling
    Verified Review
    Matt was great. He helped put a lot of things into perspective. He gave real and honest feedback and follows thru on all he promises. I will happily recommend him to anyone going thru some relationship struggles. He can help bump people back on track when they need it . Happy to have worked with you!
    Matthew H. May 1, 2016

    Chris, you were in a tough spot and you did a great job seeing the situation for what it really was.

  • Michael T. Jan 29, 2016
    Relationship Counseling
    Verified Review
    Very insightful. Talking with Matt will give you new perspectives on how to look at things and how to understand things in relationships.
    Matthew H. May 1, 2016

    Thank you Michael.

  • Angela L. Jan 26, 2016
    Marriage and Relationship Counseling
    Verified Review
    Married 6 yrs. Our relationship disconnected and distant and boggled down by constant arguing. needed a change and it needed to be soon. Decided on marriage counseling and found Matthew online. He helped us sort out our feelings and emotions, got straight to the point in helping us identify what we wanted to change about our relationship and how we express our love towards each other and what we each needed to do to maintain the connection.
    Matthew H. May 1, 2016

    I tell all my clients up front that I am very blunt and I do not sugar coat anything. You both did a great job at taking individual responsibility for the situation.

  • Nilsa S. Jan 12, 2016
    Marriage and Relationship Counseling
    Verified Review
    We saw Matthew for marriage counseling and he did help open the communication. We look forward our future sessions.
    Matthew H. May 1, 2016

    Communication and creating the space for active listening is one gift I wish I could give every marriage.

  • Jennifer B. Jan 6, 2016
    Marriage and Relationship Counseling
    Verified Review
    Was very satisfied
    Matthew H. May 1, 2016

    Thank you!

  • Santiago L. Jan 4, 2016
    Marriage and Relationship Counseling
    Verified Review
    My experience with Matthew was actually refreshing, still a work in progress, but he helped me see things in a different perspective, things that are already helping me on a daily basis, it was a very good experience. Thank you!!!
    Matthew H. May 1, 2016

    Even when only one partner shows up, we can still make big changes in a relationship.

  • Susan G. Dec 13, 2015
    Marriage and Relationship Counseling
    Verified Review
    I haven't actually had a session. I am thankful he spoke with me on the phone. His approach is refreshing . I'm not looking for a savior. Im looking for support. Guidance....and a push in the direction I want my life to go. I'll give more feedback after a session. Peace. 😉
    Matthew H. May 1, 2016

    You were in much more of a crisis than most clients. I'm always available to listen and help anyone is such a serious situation!

  • Kristi M. Nov 30, 2015
    Marriage and Relationship Counseling
    Verified Review
    We had a fantastic experience with Matthew! His style of coaching was exactly what we needed. Scheduling with him was extremely convenience since he is flexible with his time. He does not rush you through a sessions and truly takes the time to get to the root of the conversation. Highly recommend!
    Matthew H. May 1, 2016

    Kristi I enjoy working with entrepreneurs and new marriages. Thank you both for trusting me with your entire situation and not just one part of it.

  • Geney M. Nov 30, 2015
    Marriage and Relationship Counseling
    Verified Review
    Matthew H. May 1, 2016

    Thank you Geney!

  • Alissa F. Nov 20, 2015
    Marriage and Relationship Counseling
    Verified Review
    Awesome! My husband had shut down emotionally and was very unhappy with our marriage. Matthew was very knowledgeable. He was able to explain what was happening, help us understand and offer tips. My husband said he went in with a closed mind and came out with an open mind after our meeting. Not to shabby for someone who had shut down prior!! I will definitely use Matthew for any other bumps in the road in the future!
    Matthew H. May 1, 2016

    Alissa, you went thru hell and back, but your belief in what you wanted to accomplish held you thru the dark days and nights. I'm so proud of you, your growth, and the transformation you both made in your marriage!

  • Lourdes M. Nov 17, 2015
    Marriage and Relationship Counseling
    Verified Review
    Matthew has helped us find the love that was lost in our 30 yr marriage! Thank you!
    Matthew H. May 1, 2016

    Lourdes, I will never forget your and your husband. You have been dragged thru mud of life and came out shining. I'm so proud of you!

  • Michelle F. Nov 12, 2015
    Marriage and Relationship Counseling
    Verified Review
    Matthew H. May 1, 2016

    Thank you!

  • Katherine P. Oct 26, 2015
    Relationship Counseling
    Verified Review
    It was a life changer experience. My therapist, Maria Scotto, is an outstanding professional that made every minute of the sessions an opportunity to find a better way to see and to aboard my issues. I am very thankful to Maria Scotto.
  • Maria F. Oct 8, 2015
    Marriage and Relationship Counseling
    Verified Review
    Words can't express how thankful I am for the service and support provided by Matt this past month. My husband and I have been on the brink of divorce for the past two months. Matt has quickly helped us get to the root of our relationship problems. Our future is uncertain but Matt has not given up on us. He spends a tremendous amount of time and energy in couple and individual coaching. Matt is one of the best decision I have ever made.
    Matthew H. May 1, 2016

    Maria, thank you for trusting me and the process to get you thru all the twists, turns, and surprises. You have grown so much thru this process. I'm very proud of you!

  • Charissa A. Sep 24, 2015
    Relationship Counseling
    Verified Review
    Matt was willing to come to us to meet with us and was very communicative during the initial process of meeting. We found his views to be refreshing and we appreciated his feedback. He was very attentive and listened to our issues during the session and had many supportive and enlightening comments that have helped my husband and I to move a step closer to better understanding of each other's needs.
    Matthew H. May 1, 2016

    Thank you for trusting me.

  • David F. Aug 31, 2015
    Life Coaching
    Verified Review
    Matthew H. May 1, 2016

    Thank you!

  • Marti B. Jul 22, 2015
    Like most people, life takes us on different journeys. In my life, I thought I had it all figured out.....until I didn't. I was in a happy long term marriage (or so I thought), the two of us growing our little family, and working hard in our professional careers. Then one day, I awoke to realize, that the life I thought I was living was gone. I struggled to put the pieces together - worked on improving my communication with my husband (after an affair on his part) and failed. My life was falling apart and so was I. It was then that I began researching Life Coaching and came across Matt. I remember feeling very comfortable with him, but I was somewhat apprehensive that this process would be able to help me figure things out. We began our sessions and slowly with his gentle coaching, I began to be able to step back and work through issues I hadn't been successful at alone. I just didn't have the right tools in my toolkit - or rather, I didn't know how to access them correctly. Matt was able to guide me to see things in a much clearer light, to identify what I really wanted & needed and how to express it. Not just saying this is what I want, but doing so from a compassionate place and in a loving a true manner to myself. All these changes didn't happen overnight, but fairly quickly into the life coaching sessions, I felt more confident, my communications skills began improving and I began the work of putting my life back together - on my terms. Matt was the catalyst that guided me to finding my way. If you are in a position, personal or professional, where you feel stuck, lost, confused, I would highly recommend a life coach, specifically Matt. Thanks Matt! There are no words to express the gratitude I feel for what you have helped me accomplish.
    Matthew H. May 1, 2016

    Marti, you have grown so much thru this experience.

  • Mary G. Jul 22, 2015
    Coaching with Matt helped me separate my my fears from my needs. He helped me learn to communicate what my needs were to build deeper intimacy in my relationships with guys.
    Matthew H. May 1, 2016

    Mary thank you for allowing me to help you with your intimacy and dating skills. You have so much to offer!

  • Myrelie C. Jul 22, 2015
    Having a coach like Matt has been a wonderful growing experience. Not only he has presented me with techniques to deal with my everyday life, but also these tools have helped me managed in the most difficult events of my life such a Cancer. The approach of giving you options and presenting you with challenges and opening my eyes to new opportunities in life has been a interesting and needed experience. Through his guidance and friendly approach, now I feel stronger and capable of pursuing dreams that I never knew I could achieve. Thanks for all your insight! I'm truly blessed to have you in my life.
    Matthew H. May 1, 2016

    Myrelie you are so brave to fight cancer the way you did. It was an honor to be a service to you. You are an inspiration to me as well!

Q&A

What is your typical process for working with a new customer?
We talk by phone to make an introduction and decide if we are a good fit for each other. After that, I offer a money-back guarantee on the first full session. If either partner does not feel like they want to proceed, we shake hands and part of friends. Clients may text any anytime while we are working together. Sessions are booked during days, nights and weekends using my online calendar at the client's convenience.
What education and/or training do you have that relates to your work?
I graduated from the University of Miami in professional coaching. I have served on the board of directors for the South Florida Chapter of the International Coach Federation. I read about one book a week.
Do you have a standard pricing system for your service? If so, please share the details here.
I work on a flat fee project basis for 3 or 6 sessions depending on the needs. I do not keep track of hours, my clients meet me in person, call, text, chat and get full access to me when they need it. I choose my clients carefully so I can give them everything they need.
How did you get started doing this type of work?
I have been coaching executives and entrepreneurs. Half the time the issues at work stemmed from personal problems at home. Once the relationship problems were cleared up, the work improved and profits returned. The other half of the time two or more partners were indecisive about how to move forward. I took the voice of the organization and helped them figure out the same path. This is the process I use in most couples therapy. Marriage and relationships are 90% business partnership and 10% sexual.
What types of customers have you worked with?
I have literally worked with brain surgeons to auto mechanics. Entrepreneurs and company executives. There are all kinds of interesting partnerships I have encountered. I have worked with same-sex couples and couples into alternative lifestyles like kink and polyamory.
Describe a recent project you are fond of. How long did it take?
The biggest betrayal I have helped a couple recover from was a 25 yr marriage with two grown kids. The husband was being blackmailed by dancers who had video from the club. He has spent over $50,000 on entertainment and alcohol. He cleaned up his life, renewed his commitment to his marriage and is now coaching sports teams to focus on at-risk youth. They self-reported their sex life transforming from miserable to blissful in less than 3 months once they learned how to maintain a deep loving emotional connection.
What advice would you give a customer looking to hire a provider in your area of work?
Be aware that most insurance plans do not consider "Marriage Counseling" Diagnostic code V61.1, as "medically necessary." You still pay the private out of pocket rate if the claim is denied. If you call and ask for "couples counseling" the insurance customer service agent will assume you mean procedural code "90847" which means a partner may attend a covered session for treatment of anxiety or depression. Many psychologists will offer "marriage counseling" and enter a diagnosis of depression or anxiety which is medically necessary but ends up as a permanent record on your file. If you have security clearance for military or government, that can affect you. Other professions can access mental health diagnosis before making a hiring decision; police, fire, and healthcare. Working with a coach offers additional confidentiality and security of not filing any paperwork for diagnosis or insurance reimbursement.
What questions should customers think through before talking to professionals about their project?
6 Questions to Ask a Marriage Counselor When hiring a marriage counselor, everyone assumes that education, experience and the therapy or training used is the key to successfully saving a marriage. Study after study shows that successful treatment depends on the quality of the relationship between the therapist and client. You are much better off seeing a graduate student you connect with than a 40-year veteran and author with whom you do not feel understood. Every couple starts the search in some marital issues like poor communication, heated arguments, infidelity, betrayal, or lack of intimacy. Here are six questions to just start your search to find a marriage counselor or coach to solve your marital issues. 1. My problem is _______. How can you help with this? Asking for help is the hardest part! A real professional will want to spend 10 minutes talking with you to discover what your issue is before offering to be of assistance. You should not have to pay to take a bunch of assessments to find out that professional has never worked with a problem like yours. Does the professional take the time to learn a little about you, before offering an appointment? If you and your partner write down the top 3 concerns, you will have a great start to ask for help. My problem is communication, betrayal, infidelity, porn, or my spouse just won’t put their phone down. How would you handle that situation? How have you helped couples in similar circumstances? The most important thing here is if they can explain the process to you in a way that you understand. Did he or she use simple language or complicated jargon and diagnostic terms? If their first answer confused you, it probably wouldn't get any better in the actual session. 2. What is your primary strength, analysis, lecture or solution based counseling? Marriage Counselors use primarily three schools of thought when it comes to couples therapy. Cognitive-behavioral based therapies (CBT) are focused on treating immediate symptoms, by focusing on specific behaviors. Psychodynamic-based therapies concentrate on the root causes of a problem. They dig deep into your past, starting from childhood to look for wounds or trauma that could be affecting your current relationship. Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) or Emotionally Connected Couples Coaching (EC3) focus on the relationship between the partners based on creating secure attachments and restoring feelings of love and trust. The latest research shows the highest success rates in marital counseling come from the emotionally based theories. John Gottman, a well-respected couples therapy researcher, said, “Great couple’s therapy draws a little bit from everyone. Again, the professional’s ability to clearly communicate their approach is critical here, even if they say they combine methods. 3. Who is in control of the session? Another key distinction is whether a counselor is “directive” or “nondirective,” which is fancy talk for a leader or follower. Some professionals have an agenda for your session before you sit down: They follow a process and expect you to participate and complete each step to get the desired outcome. Everyone gets the same treatment that works for some people and hopefully for your marriage too. Other marriage counselors wait for you to set the agenda, either with a pre-determined topic or whatever comes up for you as soon as you sit down. Coaches have created an entirely new style of marriage counseling be allowing the clients to have all the power. The coach's role is to help the couple find and build on the existing strengths already in the marriage. 4. Who will be doing most of the talking? Some counselors view marriage counseling as listening only. You will be doing almost all of the talking. Others do all the talking, and you are expected to listen and learn. The best ones know how to strike a good balance. When a marriage counselor does not maintain control of the session, talking leads to arguing and sometimes things get out of control. Sometimes the guide will step in and take sides to solve the argument in the way they think is best. Others have more of a workshop style where they will teach you to communicate in a certain way and then have you both practice the skills. Coaches focus their session by asking insightful questions and then paraphrasing what they heard and the feelings underneath the words. You will be doing most of the talking, yet the coach will maintain control over the session in helping you get to where you told the coach you wanted the session to go. 5. What are your strengths as a marriage counselor? Not many clients ask this question, but I think they should. By asking, they are inviting the advisor to make an honest appraisal of their strongest attributes, and at the same time asking them to point out what they believe is the best part of working with them. If they say “my ability to earn fame and fortune,” well, you know what you are getting into. Many psychologists will do “couples therapy” as one of many specialties, but often it is their least favorite. If you do not feel some degree of passion in their voice for doing the work, you might want to look elsewhere. Marriage counseling is a more art than science, and it takes someone who is very emotionally aware and grounded to handle an emotionally charged situation with style, grace successfully and not appear to be taking sides with one partner over the other. If a professional is comfortable cluing you in slightly to their personal life whether they are married, divorced, parents, widowed will tell you more than any information or degree. A great marriage counselor is one who has been challenged in their marriage and risen above it. It is hard to trust someone to help you do something they have not done themselves. 6. Have you been in therapy or been coached after your training? You are going to be discussing a lot of personal, vulnerability issues about yourself and your marriage. This is a bold question that, if asked, will tell you a lot about the professional you will be hiring. Everyone has issues he or she need to work on. Just because they have been trained in therapy, been given a degree and supervised, doesn’t necessarily mean they have done their own “work” to be clear, open and honest in a session with you. If there is any hesitation to answer, push back as to why this is relevant or emotion triggered in the professional, you have your answer right there. A professional should be able to give a simple overview of their “work” and their life so you can tell if they are ready to handle your issues. After you have had a brief chat with the professional, take a moment and reflect on how you felt during the experience. How soon did you feel relaxed talking with this person? What was the pace like? Did you feel rushed, held back or did you feel like they matched your personal speed? How well did you feel understood by the professional? Think of your deepest, darkest secret, do you feel like you could let your guard down and tell this person? Alternatively, did you feel you had to keep your “public face” up and not fully let them in?