Introduction: YOU ARE A ROBOT
Well, not exactly...
It’s way more complicated than that...
But it can be helpful to think of yourself as a robot.
It’s a useful metaphor.
This robot concept refers to the unconscious, robotic parts of your brain. These hardwired systems play a huge role in your life and are responsible for many things, including your drives, emotions, and many patterns of thought and behavior.
These systems do a lot for us, but they also cause us quite a few problems. This is because our brains were designed for a time long past. Evolution takes place very slowly and our hardwiring has changed very little over the past 10,000 years. Our instinctual systems are stuck in time, intended to help us thrive in the close-knit, hunter-gatherer societies of our ancestors. Modern living is vastly different and presents many problems for our “caveman” brains.
Because of this ancient programming, many of us move through the modern world in a state of near-constant tension. We engage in self-sabotaging behavior, overthink things, and become overwhelmed emotionally. We are all fish out of water in many ways. But we don’t have to be. There’s science behind why we are often stuck in our ways, and there’s science behind what we can do about it.
The Confident Robot approach presents a unique way of seeing your hangups and setbacks. This perspective will help you make better sense of life and will provide you with tools to reduce tension and overcome that which is tripping you up and holding you back.
My name is Jonathan Baur, though I go by Jay. I am 40 and live near Annapolis, Maryland. I have a bachelor’s degree in psychology and was trained as a life coach through an ICF accredited school. I have been coaching for the past two and a half years.
HAVE THE COACHING EXPERIENCE
So what is the Confident Robot approach to coaching? Is this a science class? Am I getting lessons on being a better robot?
No. You can learn these things from a book. Coaching is much more. Simply put, coaching is a collaborative process where we work together to help you get the most out of life. Our aim is to reduce tension, move you towards your goals, and create happiness. Read on to learn more, but know it can be difficult to really “get it” by reading a short description. To understand the power of coaching, you need to have the experience.
I offer a free, one-hour session so you can see for yourself. This session will not be a sales call, but will be all about you from the first minute to the last. To actually experience what coaching can do for you is far more effective than any pitch about features and benefits. I love connecting with others and showing people what this is all about. Contact me and we will find a time to connect.
WHAT IS COACHING?
New to coaching? We start by looking at what you want to change in your life. What's not working for you right now? What is working? Where are the points of tension? Where do you feel stuck? What do you really want? You might not know the answers to these questions. That's normal. We take a relaxed approach and dig around a little bit. We work together, one devoted hour at a time, to help you make the changes you are looking for. Some people want to tone down the mental chatter and learn to relax, others are looking to turn up the energy to reach goals, some both.
To better understand how coaching works, consider that humans are social animals. We are wired-up to grow, thrive, develop, and solve our problems through interacting with others. The magic of coaching is in the back and forth that occurs between two people. Coaching feels like talking things out and working through issues, but it is much more than just chit-chatting with a friend about your dreams and problems. There is a process, and there are many tools that we will use along the way.
This process begins by looking at what you want and what is holding you back from having it. Though your challenges are unique, there are many patterns within human nature that make modern life difficult. Likewise, there are many tried and true tools to help us break free from these patterns. My perspective is informed by evolutionary psychology, eastern philosophy, mindfulness, stoicism, and Acceptance and Commitment Coaching. We will use tools and strategies from these and other disciplines.
Contact me to schedule your free introductory session.